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Venus in Capricorn Revisited

A while ago I made a post about his Venus claiming it had bad taste. I do not take the fun out of that observation but clearly this does no justice to this placement or to understanding it.

I kept thinking back to this Venus in Capricorn, to the steady energy of people with this natal Venus. The way I like to consider Venus, is its relation to values and beauty in our lives. It is very much about how we express our love and joy to the world and what we consider worthy of our attention.

If you have Venus in Capricorn it means you have a highly developed love nature. That is because love for you is something to be earned. You were probably one of these kids who had to do something to receive affection- you had to perform in some way. In other words- love was hard work, not an easy flow you could just enjoy. As a result, as a grown up you have very high standards for what you need to do before you open yourself to love. This is also true about what you expect from others- they must go through gradual stages of effort to win your heart.

The key word is gradual, persistent and stable effort.  You can’t fully give or take warm sensuality, love or even friendship without these little efforts to lead you there.

You are very good at building a long-lasting relationship, and most of your connections are long lasting. At the same time you are just as good avoiding any connections if they are deemed unworthy to you.  If you feel the other person is not going to put in any effort or comply to the gradual steps in the relationship- you simply walk away, unattached. This might seem a bit cold to the outside perspective, but really it is your way to create love in life. You know you can’t have it any other way, and truthfully why should you?

The problem is, that at times it might be too easy to fall into a pattern of avoidance, of being single or staying a polite distance from others. Especially when young, Venus in Capricorn can avoid dating or serious relationships altogether. This is ironic considering they only want that type of relationship. They do have an inner ideal of a traditional, marriage or at the very least a long lasting partnership that is conventional enough. Take Miley Cyrus as an example- on and off again with one serious boyfriend she is now engaged to. After all the wild years she really wants that traditional marriage. This is true to Venus in Capricorn in that no matter how freedom loving the rest of the chart might seem- at some point they will simply want to settle down.

For you love is not a flashy thing, it is not made of huge promises or lavish luxuries. It is made out of small efforts, commitments and most importantly growth. Every relationship you have is about gradually getting better, stronger and more refined. You need to know that love is about climbing up somewhere towards a goal. This goal can be anything you decide but you must see it is moving to a higher point over time. If a relationship is good but it stays the same for years? You will feel you have failed somehow. This is unfortunate, as you might become cold towards a perfectly great partner. It is better you speak the goal out loud and find ways to work towards it together. Usually, it can be something small but it still means a lot to you.

Other than that, you are a warm lover who likes to take care of another person. You enjoy knowing you can put in efforts (work) to take your partner to their highest point. You are fine with being asked to do about anything- you will not shy away from any challenge. Unless, this is something you consider being a down grade.

For example, if the person you love asks for something you think is ugly, unworthy or simply will make them appear “lower” in some way. One man with Venus in Capricorn I knew, would  buy his girlfriend beautiful clothes, jewelry and perfume but when she asked for a pair of ripped jeans she liked- he would not but them- for him she will be downgrading her looks and he would not be party to that. This is of course one example, and his can play out on emotional levels. If she had a Venus in Capricorn she might simply avoid showing angry emotions in the relationship- instead choosing to walk out of the room. Again, this is really about keeping things classy.

Venus in Capricorn, is very particular about social norms, behaviors and appearances. Again we can go back to how they won over the adults in their lives- who gave them love when they acted polite, respectful or even like “little adults”. Parents to Venus in Capricorn should be aware of this and give their smart child some leeway to be wild, messy and silly.

Sexually speaking, Venus in Capricorn are very sensual (earth sign) they are not aggressive and they are very careful about what they do until they are sure if you like it. A lover who lets them go wild a bit is what they need- they need to lose control once in a while and to show their affection in a free fashion.

Now the pitfalls for you are many. To start with, you can as I said before become too focused on things you want and avoid deep relationships. You can also end up with someone who will manipulate you to work for them. I have many examples of this Venus being abused and staying for years- putting in more efforts the more the relationships fails. So you should avoid both extremes, of too much or too little.

A good partner for you is someone who enjoys being nurtured, who will make all the secret gentleness come out from under your controlled self. Who will make you want to touch and hug them, feed them and take care of their needs. This is someone who is not aggressive, who is sensitive and has sweetness about them, someone who enjoys and appreciates the small daily efforts and the larger vision of the relationship. Who has a good vision into the future and who doesn’t want huge romantic gestures taken from a movie set. You also need a partner with a head on their shoulders, who can think in a rational manner, avoid becoming too emotional and not irrupt into intense emotions.

This is basically someone with qualities that are a crossover of Cancer and Aquarius. So if you meet someone is both in need of what you can give but also not too dependent on you- you found a match.

Now, a bit on the gender differences of this Venus: If you are a Woman with Venus in Capricorn you give love the way this post describes. You put in effort, you act classy, and you take time with building the relationship to fit what you want. You are elegant and you don’t erupt with intense emotions. You know how to walk away with grace- unless you have worked so hard you will never walk away no matter how bad it gets.

If you are a man with Venus in Capricorn, you want an elegant, small boned partner who is hard working but also wise beyond their years. Who will take a more traditional role in in the relationship. You may not admit to it but you do want her to be a bit “crazy” on an emotional level and you do enjoy a sensitive partner who will allow you open up. You want a family, children and a nice house. And you want the house (metaphorical house) to get bigger every year.

Some other key points for this Venus:

Love has no price. You are worthy of love just as you are. You don’t need to way for what you want. It is okay not to have to ask for what you need. If someone doesn’t enjoy what you give- they never will and no amount of sweat is going to change that.

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The Complex art of Compatibility Charts

Today I am going to walk you through the first steps in reading a compatibility chart. Probably one of the most sought after readings in Astrology, because at the end of the day we all want the same thing- love, intimacy, friendship.

What they don’t tell you is how complicated such a reading can be. The amount of information and possibilities seen is no joke. The same aspects and sign placements can mean many different things. Nevertheless, some rules do apply and you can find out a great deal from such a chart about your relationship with the other person. Personally, I know more about Birth charts and Solar returns then this type of practice. Yet even I am not immune to its charms and practical use. Here too the Birth Chart is central if you want to figure things out, there are two main methods you can try:

 A. Look at the chart as if it’s the Birth chart of your relationship to each other. Just reading it according to the usual method.

B. Say you  are dating someone new and you want to know if this is a good relationship or not. What you need to do is study your chart and then his/her chart separately and then combine what you learn and compare it to the Compatibility Chart.

As you can guess I prefer the second method, it’s just more correct in my opinion. You don’t need to be a pro to do this- all you need is basic natal knowledge and the tools to apply it.

To help you here are some questions that can guide the process. First, find out what the relationship is like in style. For some background let’s say we have Jake and Mary and they are dating for a short period of time. They don’t know much about each other, but they both really want this to work.  Jake is an Aries with a Virgo Moon and Mary is a Capricorn with a Pisces Moon.  You look at the Chart and you see the Sun falls into Leo in 10th house and the Moon is in Virgo in the 6th. Though the rest of the chart should be considered in terms of style you already know that it’s more of a “work” relationship than a “romantic” one. This doesn’t mean they can’t fall in love and marry – not at all! It just means that the relationship is going to be more about working together and making goals and a daily routine then about fun adventures.

It is also very important to compare the signs to the Birth charts of the couple.  We know that Aries and Capricorn are worlds apart, but here we have opposite Moon’s In Virgo and Pisces. So Jake and Mary may feel that the other one has qualities that they wish they had. Jake may wish he could let go of analyzing his emotions and just feel and Mary may wish she could be less sensitive to criticism. The combined chart (as I call it) has a Moon in Virgo in the 6th house. Because Jake is a Virgo moon then a power struggle to have the relationship as he wants it to be may become a problem. You see- he may fall in love with Mary and feel amazing with her, but she may find it a bit harder to feel good. Unless they “work” on their emotions and home together or build a project that would enhance their careers. Emotionally this is not an easy partnership.

But let’s not give up and keep looking some more. Sun in Leo is somewhat fun and gives both of them time to breath- as long as they take pride in who they are by doing work. Next Venus and Mars are very important. Jake has his Venus in Taurus making him sensual and giving in love, but most importantly it makes him want women that are stable, practical, and classy- Just like Mary! Who is such a Capricorn that she does have some of these qualities: she is classy and practical, and Jake would like that about her. Jakes Mars is in Cancer which gets along amazingly with the opposite Capricorn in a sexual relationship.  So things are not as bad as a first glance would make you think. They might date and not get along at first but eventually over time they will enjoy each other.  What about Mary?  She had her Mars in Leo; she likes a partner who is confident, creative, energetic and maybe a little bossy. But most importantly she likes him to be open and have a big heart. Jake is an Aries and he is very much that- open, honest and proud. His very analytical nature would be forgiven as it helps Mary overcome her fears and deal with her dreams, turning them into reality. As a Capricorn she would like that very much. They both can have a nice business together maybe at home (Moon in the 10th house) and if they work as a team then this can be a very loving partnership.

This is just a very little example- but as you can see so many things need to be taken into account when trying to understand a relationship.

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Here is a check list that would help you:

Is the chart more about feelings? Planets in the 4th, 8th and 12th house. or Is it more about ideals? the 9th house or perhaps all about fun? look for planets In the 5th house.

Is it a harmonious relationship? Lots of Trines and sextiles, or a challenging one? Many squares and opposing planets.

Is Saturn well aspected? If yes it will be a long lasting relationship.  

Uranus may show you if a breaking up is a danger.  

Is it a soul-mate relationship- planets in the 7th house,8th and sometimes 12th. 

Does any of the partners have anger issues (Mars) or substance abuse (Neptune)?

I hope this helps, please remember that even a difficult chart can with some extra work signify a great relationship. It’s all about learning the weak and strong points for a better version of the chart.

Wish you love.

Lee

Finding Love and Astrology

Today’s post is going to be a little different and even a bit more personal perhaps. Love is something we all need and want and today I want to talk about that. When we think of love,we think about that person that can complete us and love us as we love them. Everyones definition of love is different but we all agree its a positive thing. I agree love is the most beautiful experience we humans can have. But  I also think love can be confused with passion,need,fear,attraction,you see the dangers here? from an astrological point of view this is even more evident. We all have deep emotional needs and just by looking at your moon placement this needs can be revealed to you. But is the person that is going to fulfill this need be the right one for you? not necessarily. You can fall in love and have a great connection with someone but that doesn’t promise a lasting and healthy relationship for you both. So when looking at your birth chart look at it as a whole not just the Moon,Venus or Mars. When a friend asked me once to tell her if she had a future with a boyfriend I realized how important it is to see the whole picture. she is a beautiful cancer sun with Libra moon and rising and her loved one a Scorpio sun. That was all the information I had about him. So I decided to rely on her chart alone and talk to her about her needs and patterns in relationships. In other words,love calls for self understanding more then compatibility with any zodiac sign. If you know who you are then you can build a relationship that lasts and makes you happy. Instead of looking for someone to complete you,be complete on your own. Love should be two people adding more to each others whole and growing better and stronger together. What about passion you ask? attractions is like a primitive compass towards a person that could be good for you. A woman with Mars in Aries would like man that acts like and Aries. It doesn’t mean she need to date one! Instead she can know what she likes and search for that in a partner. Don’t get me wrong,If you know your partners birth chart then that is useful. You should get to know and understand him or her the same way. Don’t search if you are compatible! Instead search to understand him or her in the best way you can.

Here is an overview of what each planet can tell you about love in your life:

Sun: Where you need to take center stage in a relationship,where you feel at ease at the beginning of a relationship.

Moon: The kind of connection you seek and how you react to love,anger,fear in relationships.

Mercury: How do you communicate In love and friendships? what kind of conversation you enjoy and need? Do you need marriage or friendship and a non traditional relationship?

Venus: How do you express love? do you touch,kiss,talk or stay silent with a dreamy look in your eyes?

what kind of environment or values you need to have love? (The perfect woman)

Mars: How to you handle you active life?  How you show anger and how strong your sex drive? (the perfect man)

Saturn: Your hardships and your triumphs,the long lasting partnerships.

Jupiter: Where you are lucky in love and what spiritual values you hold.

Rising sign:  How you look to potential lovers and how you express yourself when you hide who you are.

Tell me  what is love in your opinion?

Do you think astrology should be used to find love? or do you agree its only  a tool for self knowing?

Have a beautiful day

Dido: No Love Without Freedom

Dido,a unique singer with her own individual recognizable voice. Her songs speak of love,freedom and devotion, but what kind of love? I know completely nothing of her personal life but through reading the birth chart and her music Ill try to paint a picture.Dido is a Capricorn but by now you know how misleading the sun sign can be! She does not sing about the Capricorian kind of relationship where stability and honor play the highest part. No,instead she speaks of a spiritual love:

“There will be no white flag above my door
I’m in love and always will be “-White Flag

Her songs contain a devoted kind of love but also anguish and sensitivity. For most people her songs- even the sad ones, have a positive message. Why? perhaps because of the sensitivity and humility in the lyrics as well as the gentle way she presents herself.  Dido has her Mars in Pisces and Venus in Aquarius,together this combination is just what I described.

Mars in Pisces are not action takers,they are very sensitive in the way they present themselves and at times even passive. This placement in a female chart shows us that she likes man that are quite,gentle dreamers. She supports this sensitive man in their difficulty to face the “real practical world” and as a Capricorn she is more then capable of doing this. Venus in Aquarius is also the kind to choose spiritual or intellectual kind of love over the sensual. She is the one to sacrifice herself for love-if the love meets her ideal. the ideal is freedom!

“No love without freedom
No love without freedom
No love without freedom
No freedom without love”

This themes of having a partner to give her that freedom comes up again and again in many of her songs (Hunter for example). So what we have here is someone that gives all to a a partner that doesn’t necessarily answer that need for her to be herself, but being a devoted Pisces Venus she ends up staying and sacrificing her need,or ending the relationship.

Its not a person with easy kind of relationships at all. Her gifts lay in her ability to love as her true self and a partner that can appreciate the realness and open devotion is the one she needs.

Lastly,lets look at the moons placement as it shows a great deal about ones emotional world. Dido’s moon is in Aries,a very fiery dramatic placement that is great for actresses and authors. This moon is also very idealistic! they fight for a spiritual cause. Its also a good balance to the passive Mars and always there to carry on after a broken heart-and keep on believing in love and freedom.