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The 12h house: What is Wrong with the World

When a planet sits in the 12ht house of a natal chart it can be both a beautiful and difficult experience, often at the same time. If you have a planet of even several planets in the 12th house learning as much as you can about it is crucial. This is because 12th house planets can be hard to ever fully know and own. Especially if the rest of your chart is much more accessible overall. for example, you have a lot of fire signs or planets in houses 1 to 7. 

The way I see it, one issue is that any planet in the 12th house is already passed on from this world. It is that part of you that is old, wise, evolved more than any other. It doesn’t mean it has not lessons to learn, but it may feel it does not want to fully be present in the here and now- it wants to escape into other realms of being beyond physical existence. It wants to go back to the other world, the womb and the infinite world of the divine.

Do you see the problem? Many parts of life do offer us illusory escape: We dream in our sleep, we watch movies and read books, listen to music and daydream.So whatever planet is in your 12th house is going to be somewhat prone to not wanting to deal with its mission in the classic sense.  For example, Mercury would not want to use rational thinking and prefer mystical thinking, Venus may not consider physical beauty and form, Saturn will feel like the ultimate victim of circumstance.

I’m painting what seems like a negative picture but really it is only one aspect of this. After all, I did say this planet is already living in the spirit world- it is your highest self. But can that part of you meet reality? Can it live in our current world?

The real issue is that we are living in a world that is not perfect. We see and feel a great deal of suffering. Today more than ever we are exposed to what is going on in the world through the news and online. It cannot be ignored. As a 12th house person you will not be able to shut off all that feels so very wrong to you. Growing up you probably were told to shut off your empathy because it didn’t fit in so well with daily life and tasks. You may have been made to feel you need to reject that part of yourself that felt something was not right. You see this with children who ask questions, who wonder why things are the way they are. Teachers and grown-ups tell them not to ask those questions, not to cry over the puppy or homeless man in the street. Instead you were told you need to be strong, too survive, to fight and do your homework. To do all these Virgo things of daily routine and living. On the one hand, it is very true that the 12ht house person needs to learn to go through life all the mundane tasks of work and routine. To learn to take hold of every day and not run away. The problem is that our current world is not yet built for true compassion- people ate focused on surviving and on being “strong”. You probably rejected those aspects of yourself. Try and think back on when and how it was happening. Try and remember who you used to be before you had to develop thicker skin. You might even discover some problems started taking up root in your mind and body when it happened. Just because you disowned those parts of yourself that could not handle the pain and emotional stimulation- those parts are still a part of you. A disowned 12ht house is like a palace full of treasures with a wide open door: anyone can come and steal its treasures and burn it down to the ground. An owned 12th house shines bright light for miles, it opens its door to those in need and closes it in front of those who wish to do evil.

The people who tell the 12ht house person to develop thicker skin and be strong are missing the point. Sure, you could use some tools to deal better with organizing your life and achieving some goals. But your strength is simply different. It is not the fighting kind that goes to war like Mars. Or the kind the develops ideas like Mercury. It is the elusive strength of Neptune: that only seems weak on the surface but in fact is more long standing then them all. You have behind you the power of spirit, and the entire light of creation. Can anything triumph that? You tell me.

You need to let the planet in the 12th house be who it is, stop wearing masks and acting. Playing a role is so common for you may have forgotten you are going through the motions of a written script.  There is always a powerful creative force behind the 12th house planets, they can unleash creations that do seem to come from out of this world. They can excess experiences that people only dream of and bring them into our reality. Transforming what is wrong by showing the gap between the way things are and the way things should be. The 8th house does this too but through death and transformation, the 12h house is already…Dead. It knows what stays infinite despite death:  What is true and good, that is love and actions that impact people. These stays and never die and form them it will fight.

What is your 12th house experience?

I hope to explore the 12th house in my next posts. Starting with planets and moving on to aspects and celebrity charts. 

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Empathy: The three Types

 “All I ever wanted was to reach out and touch another human being not just with my hands but with my heart.”
― Tahere Mafi

Are you an empath? Were you told you are too sensitive growing up? Let’s consider what does empathy even mean.

All humans have empathy- with few rare exceptions. Having no empathy at all would essentially make you a psychopath.  Some people have such a developed ability that they face special challenges in their lives.

Empathy is defined as the ability to feel what someone else is feeling. It is not your feelings but you identify and understand them enough to feel them as if they are your own.

Empathic people tend to be able to experience a wide variety of emotions. Imagine emotions like colors- for an empath these colors are vivid and a wide combination of tones and textures is available. Some might call this emotional intelligence but I think that at times empathy can in fact hinder the ability to act in an emotionally intelligent manner.

If you are an empath you by nature don’t tend to separate yourself from other people. The boundaries between” I and other” are blurry.

For an empath the ability is most present when being in the same space as another person. In fact, the closer they are standing next to you and if they touch you and look into your eyes- the stronger the experience of emphasizing will be for you.

Empathy doesn’t have to be toward an actual living person in the room or a person at all- it can be a strong experience towards an event, a story someone tells you or an animal.

Like I mentioned before empathy means understanding how someone else is feeling- putting yourself in their shoes.

In order to do so- you would have to know the feeling- to have experienced it yourself. That’s why most empathic people have intense emotional responses; they feel things on a deep level. They felt things from an early age and are familiar with the different ways: love, anger, pain, anxiety and happiness can take.

Imagine talking to a friend and telling them of a problem you have or something that happened during the day.  An empathic friend would not just listen to what you are saying- they would respond as if they understand how that event made you feel. They may say something that shows they understand or they may understand without you saying anything- what you need. If you need silence, a hug or advice they will be able to give it to you.  Chances are they will show they are affected by what you said- they may start crying or shiver as if they feel your fear or if you are happy they will smile.

Most of us try and be good friends and family members and show we care.  The difference between empaths and regular people is in their boundaries and level of detachment.

An empath has a very low level of detachment from your feelings and may even confuse them with their own emotions!  Another difference is in their ability to move away from the emotions, they can’t simply forget what you told them or how you made them feel and will need a lot of time to detach. Most empaths also have physical symptoms of this experience: they can have nightmares, shiver, and feel cold and overwhelmed.

Because being an empath is not an easy experience and it can get overwhelming- many highly empathic people think there is something wrong with them. They may see how different their experience is to other people and feel they are “weak for letting the world get to them. Nothing is further from the truth, they are not weak but simply more attuned to the world- they are a radio attuned to the human experience with no off button.

Not being able to turn off empathy makes many empathic people shy away from human interaction. They may seem distant and cold which is ironic.

Empathy also has another side effect-an ability to put on a mask or play any role. Think about it- if you know emotions so well and you expressed and experienced them on a deep level- wouldn’t it be easy for you to pretend o feel something?  This ability to become anything and anyone is an interesting aspect of empathy. It is almost like magic.

The challenge for empaths is to learn how to create boundaries that are strong enough to let them function in the world. The trick is in knowing that boundaries don’t mean they shut themselves away from helping people or from feelings- in fact boundaries allow them to be much more emphatic towards many more people, without getting tired.

Anyway…Let’s get back into what Astrology has to say about empathy.

Traditionally empathy is associated with the Moon, specifically with the Moon in a water sign.  Additionally, empathy is associated with the planet Neptune.

In my experience the way empathy plays out for each Moon sign is different. Although I am talking specifically about moon signs these types can also relate to personality types and play out in other placements in your chart. If you recognize any of it- and don’t have a water Moon, that is probably the case.

1st type is the Moon in Pisces:  This is the type of empathy where with the lowest level of boundaries. You feel you are the other person completely! The emotions are also very lacking I direction because you can’t always tell where they come from or what made you feel. It is almost as if how you feel is made out of fragments of other people and places. You tend to feel collective emotions! So you are a natural actor and performer. On the other hand you can’t describe or pin down what you feel- you just do.

2nd type is the Moon in Cancer: This is where you know you are feeling someone else’s emotions- but you can’t help but let them in. You also feel very nurturing and like you want to help the other person. The need to be of service and to give can make this empathy very exhausting. Take care of yourself first.  You also tend to feel stronger empathy towards those who are weak: children, animals and the sick.

3rd type is the Moon in Scorpio: Here there are stronger boundaries and ability to tell what your own emotions are. You have the type of empathy that goes underneath the emotion of the person to the root cause. You tend to understand the reason for the emotion and are a natural psychologist. Here the empathy is directed towards the darker impulse of humanity- you understand pain and darkness and can see beneath evil to the pain at heart.