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Date for every sign

So…Today a quick fun holidays post about the best date for every sign, of course if you know anything about Astrology our Sun sign is a small and fraction of who we are.  That being said our Sun is our ego, our self-esteem, our confidence- all things that make us happy.

Feel free to find a date that works for the chart of the person (if you know it).  For example, the perfect date for my Leo friend would fit in Gemini as she has both Moon and Venus in that sign. I wrote this with a first or second date in mind, this is not about what a sign needs in a relationship but about the general style of how they like things to play out in terms of activity. Also, this is not an in-depth or very accurate description of a sign. Why? Because a Leo Venus is not a Leo Moon, instead look at it as personality types and how to date them. Hope I made that clear and we can proceed to how fun it is to date all these different types.

What is your favorite date and what is your sign?

Date for Aries

A good date for this strong personality ruled by Mars would involve a little action. Aries enjoy anything that is new, exciting, physical and playful. Many appreciate having an adrenaline spike. So get them an experience! They also don’t like doing things alone so you can get into the fun with them.  Anything involves wheels and fun rides will be success. They can also enjoy games (paintball anyone?) As long as you let them win.  Bottom line: if it allows them to get out there and not be bored, feel competitive but also on the receiving end of warm attention- it’s a good idea.

Date for Taurus

Taurus is easy to please. Anything that is pleasant to the senses is going to make them feel loved.  Treat them to an experience that is relaxed and doesn’t involve a lot of stressful choices. They need to feel they can enjoy all that is around them- the atmosphere, the food and the music.  Taurus would also enjoy live music, theater, an art exhibition or anything beautiful. The trick is to let them soak in what you are doing together. No words needed but touch is. Bottom line: No need for expensive over the top dates, just make sure it is comfortable and smells nice where you are going. Oh and pleas pleas keep it classy.

Date for Gemini

This one can get a bit tricky; it depends greatly on your ability to read their bored face, as long as the Gemini isn’t bored? It’s going well.  A date with no complications that seems to go smoothly is what they want.  It doesn’t matter what you do as long as the conversation is flowing. That being said, many Gemini’s enjoy playing games or solving puzzles. They also like a date that isn’t too planned out. So you should plan it but make it look as if they are in a movie and stuff is just going on. Move from one place to the next, take a little trip somewhere and change direction. Gemini would appreciate a stand up show, a game of poker or a poetry night.

Date for Cancer

Cancer needs to feel they can trust you before they open up. A date that involves getting to know your soft side is going to be best.  Romantic gestures that show that you care are appreciated.  At the same time, don’t go in too strong so an activity that allows that safe space is best. Cancer can also be nostalgic and like doing something that they enjoyed growing up.  The classic movie date is not a bad idea. They can also enjoy doing something domestic like cooking together. Many enjoy following a romantic script. So the whole looking at the stars and holding hands drill. Some might also appreciate a little drama so take them to the theater or a dance show to get their emotions out. Bottom line: Keep it sweet but with a touch of dramatic flair.

Date for Leo

Leo does like the over the top romantic gestures.  They appreciate knowing they can shine in the situation.  So avoid anything that is not going to allow them to show their best: best dress, best talent or just best mood. It is not really all that complicated.  They would prefer dates to be outside the home- somewhere public. You need to show you put effort and made it not just about you.  Like the Aries they can enjoy a little bit of action and outdoor stuff- but in a glamorous setting involving heels or ties.  Bottom line: show them off in the best spot in town, and gifts are a sign of respect.  Parties, carnivals, the opera and your friend’s house, are generally reasonable ideas. Oh and keep it full of joy, no complaining.

Date for Virgo

My goodness, this one is both super simple and hard. It is about showing you have something to offer- that they want.  It doesn’t matter so much what you do as long as you’re honest and polite. Many Virgo types can enjoy a walk, a bit of nature and conversation. Yes like the Gemini date they would need to be interested in that. At first make it a coffee, don’t make it long and don’t brag.  Go somewhere that is clean and relaxed, no chaos. Virgo can also really appreciate a good sense of humor. Bottom line: simple, clean and intelligent activities.  Coffee it is.

Date for Libra

Libra would enjoy the classic date with a twist. So start with classic: a good restaurant, a show and add an element of edginess to it.  Libra  doesn’t like to be making choices during the date- so pick something for them. At the same time they are super sharp and would appreciate high culture, so nothing vulgar, ugly or aggressive pleas. If the classic pretty part goes well you can venture into something different. Like alternative music, poetry, art or maybe UFO hunting. They are amazing like that. Bottom line: not home, not nature but yes to culture of any type.

Date for Scorpio

Scorpio wants to destroy the classic date- they want to strip you down to your true intentions. The Virgo wants an honest date- Scorpio wants a date they can figure out to be honest. See the difference? Scorpio wants their emotions to awaken. If you go for a movie or a play make it something powerful and intense. They will not appreciate you trying to figure them out but will melt complexly if you lay your heart bare. Anyway, Scorpio wants an experience of emotional intimacy. How to achieve that? I don’t know, maybe save their life? Or at least show you would.

Date for Saggiterius

Saggiterius like to feel free, a date outdoors or taking a little trip is fun for them.  Unlike the Libra their idea of nature isn’t a Japanese park but a forest with animals. They also love foreign cultures so exotic foods or getting to know a culture is exciting to them.  They don’t care how highbrow a date is- they want it real and free.  So nothing that forces you into a suite or dress pleas. They could appreciate anything that allows them to learn- lectures, classes and seminars. They also enjoy sports quite a bit and comedy. Bottom line: If it speaks a new language, quakes like a duck or sounds like Jim Carrey. Go for it.

Date for Capricorn

Capricorn likes the vintage feel. They want real high quality but without glamorous or overly romantic gestures. So they don’t want you confessing your feelings but they do want you to show respect. A romantic gesture is mistrusted but simple warm actions are valued. So if you just take your coat off for them or ask them about their day they will see it as a good sign. They really enjoy classic anything. Also keep boundaries of respect and politeness at all costs. Other than that they are very down to earth and don’t need an actual “activity” for the date. Make sure to not talk too much and follow their smart little anecdotes.

Date for Aquarius

Aquarius likes a date that doesn’t say it’s a date. Keep it friendly and easy going and let them decide if they want it to be a date.  They do like to feel free and will not tolerate actions that limit that. That means that unlike the Libra they need to be making the choices for where you go. At the same time you need to be strong enough to say what you want and offer that as an option. So…Do what you like to do but make sure to incorporate their idea of fun into it. Many Aquarius types love alternative gatherings and venues that allow diversity and free spirted behavior. They would go to most things “indie” if you offer.

Date for Pisces

Well, a date that transports them beyond the mundane world is good. Maybe a date that is a bit like fate, a movie scene or dream. At least it should feel like it matters, it is about breaking boundaries. Not like the Aquarius that wants to feel they rule they world but like boundaries between people are broken. Many start relationships after an intimate conversation or doing something kind for you. I think that date happens a long time after the actual romantic connection has happened.  What made the connection? Only they know, probably something small that made them feel bound. Anyway, Pisces like dates where you both can make small sweet and caring gestures for each other. They enjoy spending time alone with you in a dreamscape.

 

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How the Scorpio Moon goes Mad

The Scorpio wants to feel for the sake of feeling. The feeling is mistaken for truth when in fact, truth is to be found when the waves of emotions die down. Truth is within you if you could only see the magnificent beauty of your own soul, instead of the endless current of moods you live in, If only…But you crave emotion and it is the only way you know to be alive. Is being alive the same as living?  the answer is no. If this resonated with you at all then continue reading and If not please excuse this moody post.

“Sensitive people usually love deeply and hate deeply. They don’t know any other way to live than by extremes because their emotional thermostat is broken.”
― Shannon L. Adler

Today I want to talk about the complicated emotional makeup of the Moon in Scorpio. This is especially relevant as this placement is all about the experience of emotions in life. I want to write to you- my Moon in Scorpio dear person, as perhaps this might be helpful for you. I know you don;t shy away from gruesome images, hard truths and painful memories. So I trust you will forgive my harshness. Let’s face it, you are a little mad by nature or at least by nurture. Whatever the case, you are prone to at least a few problems which cause you to experience inner turmoil. The minor version of your crazy is that of the obsessive thinker- you never let a thought or idea go once in enters your head, do you? You are prone to attach your thoughts to events in your life and reimagine them over and over. Naturally you are prone various nervous break downs and insomina. The less minor version of your crazy is all about waves, waves of ups and downs that can make the latest thriller seem tame as a puppy. Something along the lines of a bipolar disorder. You feel deeply they tell you- sure, but it just happens you feel deeply in cylces of joy and desparetion. It is not a flat line of depth you exprience but a strom that is within you- always. There is nothing very wrong with you, in fact you are the most gifted individual in terms of how expreinced you are in all range of feeling and knowing. But…lets ask a simple quistion? why are you feeling at all? What is it that you really feel?

Imagine you are sitting in your living room in a comfy chair and a commercial comes up on TV. Something about it makes you feel things. Is that emotion real? Probabbly not you will say, it was manipulated to make you buy stuff. You are right about that one. The quistion is what are you buying into every day? The secret truth is you are buying into you Scorpio Moon, the master of emotional manipulation. Thats why you feel bad and thats why things are so wrong. all the F***** time. You were born with the Moon in Scorpio, you are unique! You were born to feel and that is what you truly desire. To reach the depth of human exprience and find out the truth. Yes you see- you want to feel because you want to find out truth. But we all know emotions can lie, don’t we? Are feelings really the way to the light? Perhaps for you they are. But not so fast dear…You are going mad. You are obssesed, depressed, sad, lonly, alone, angry. Why does that happen when all you wanted was to feel?

The answere is boring but true. You have a built-in mechanism (Moon) that is able to create emotion out of thin air. You have this need for feeling that isnt satisphied with daily exsitenace. Anyone else feels things because of events in thier life. They see a tiger? they feel fear. You don’t see a tiger and so you imagine a big scary tiger until you feel scared for you life. Thats is because your true secret fear is that of not feeling- of being empty. That would mean you are dead. Being alive for you is feeling and any momment without it must be the end. So you have this gift, this secret ability to fuel and create feelings for the sake of every breath you take. This is a gift- when it sint turturing you to bits. Sadly, for most of you Scorpio Moon’s this ability isnt used for the creation of amazing art or for saving the world with you convictions. I can think of famous ones who did just that. Instead, you keep needing stimuli within you (it is not something you show) and you self-destruct. It is human nature to find negative emotions and thoughts easy to conjure and maintaine. So…that is what happens when you are young. You seek emotions and when it sint there you create it while convincing yourself it is real and caused by X or Y.

You are not crazy, you are just walking around with this lava that is about to burn you. I beg you to either admit that you have needs to truth and love and to seek them outside of your own twisted mind, or to at least find release and expression. 

Is what you feel caused by an outward event? is it caused by the memories of the past? 

What matters for you is to learn a few things before you can shine like the diamond you are. 

First, learn to live in the present and to ride its current that will take you into a health future. Second, learn the usefulness of boundaries so as to differentiate your feelings from the world- you are an empath after all. Third, face your biggest fear- which is fear itself. Last, most important is learn you mission to uncover truth which you can through honest emotions not conjured by artificial means. be it addictions, relationships or your own glorious mind, You devil. 

Venus in Gemini- Friendship never ends

And I’m only here
To bring you free love
Let’s make it clear
That this is free love
No hidden catch
No strings attached
Written by Venus in n Gemini Dave Gahan (Depeche Mode)

Venus in Gemini is one of the most romantic and exciting placements for the planet of love and beauty.  I would like to dispute many of the common views of this placement.

For example, you may have heard that Venus in Gemini people get bored easily and  don’t like emotionally heavy relationships- which for some reason leads to the paranoid conclusion that they are likely to cheat.  I don’t agree with any of this nonsense, in fact Gemini is one truly romantic sign for Venus to be.  Venus at the end of the day rules not only love but also our values- what we hold dear in our hearts.

A Gemini Venus is looking for a very specific kind of relationship and won’t settle for anything less than a true soulmate match.  Yes, they will not stay in a relationship that doesn’t hold on to this ideal- and they may even exit without a second glance at their broken hearted partner. But it isn’t out of some malice- they just believe in that one true partnership and they have no doubt you should do so too!

The kind of love they look for is a partnership of two equals that can keep each other interested- leading to growth, a partnership of two that are made stronger and better by being together.

They have a deeply hidden fantasy of this person and relationship. It usually evolves a lot of play, adventure, excitement and sweet moments where they get to exchange kind words with their loved one.  There is something almost childlike about how they view romantic love- they want to it to be cute and fun and full of “togetherness”. As long as their lover is by their side they are happy- no need for money or crazy nights of passion. They just want someone who is sweet, kind and fits their secret ideal of a perfect friend.

Many of them had a friend like that when they were little- and they tend to look for a similar person when they grow up. They tend to express love and care in an inconsistent manner – some day they are all sunny and bring you flowers for breakfast and the next they might disappear on you completely to become engaged in some strange activity. In that sense they are indeed slightly hard to rely on- but once you get used to their comings and goings you will notice a repeating pattern.  They usually engage with you for a while and then become entranced by something else- but if they love you they always come back.

If you try and scold them for their behavior you will only get sad puppy eyes or some long funny story. It’s best to accept them as they are and enjoy your moments of freedom.

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A jealous partner would make Gemini Venus people sad and lost. They become confused when their “best friend” doesn’t allow them the same thing which the give with ease:  freedom to discover and change. If you want to keep them happy it is best to use sweet talk or simply hold their hand.  In some ways this Venus is truly poetic and appreciates the world of theater, poetry, literature or even cheap romance novels. They like to be swift in their actions and don’t like to linger too long on one thing. They probably would solve most arguments with ease with the use of a sharp tongue and a touch of humor. They are very charming in their ability to shift and change and they are never at a loss for words of love.

The Venus in Gemini is the kind of prince   who would exaggerate his heroism for the sake of the story, he the kind of guy who will kiss your eyelids every morning but forget your birthday. She is  the princess who asks you to slay the dragon for some action – but as long as you’re cute she doesn’t care if you actually do. This is the girl who looks innocent but is a dare devil at heart- and she wants you to respect that. They both may sound untruthful at times- but this is because they are inventing the truth as they go along- it is true for them! They can create the perfect love story and tell all their friends about how you met. In fact they love to create a fantasy around your relationship: how you met and how it was love at first sight.  They need you to like and enjoy them more then they need you to love them. Love is friendship that never ends.  

In some ways they cannot accept the truly painful emotions that a lover may hold within them. To them if a relationship is good- their partner should feel good and that’s the end of it. It a lover feels pain, hurt, confusion- they feel something must be wrong with the relationship.  To make them understand it is best to try and be rational about your emotions and talk and talk some more.

They are deeply caring and loyal to you (once they are) and would probably figure an unorthodox way to make you happy. Women with Venus in Gemini are very easygoing in love. They will charm you with their ability to just be with you in the moment- having fun. They would also be amazing in communicating their appreciation of you.  If you are a good listener, have a sense of humor and don’t accept any promises from them- it should go wonderfully. It is important for them that you don’t fill their lives with negative energy and situations.

They might stay at first out of curiosity (curiosity killed the cat was about them) but soon enough they will see you are no friend to them.  Men with Venus in Gemini tend to be able to charm the opposite sex with ease, as they are very good with words and presenting an image of playfulness.  At heart they are yearning for that soulmate- they know who the perfect girl is. She will be that person who would always be by their side- there to see them make amazing discoveries but also stupid jokes. They want a girl who embodies a spirit of cleverness but who is also “the girl next door” in many ways.  They like girls who are both ordinary but at the same time slightly quirky and strange.

Both want a friendship that will last a lifetime- they may believe in that. Until they find it- they would be big flirts that are still searching for the one. If you have a crush on either all you have to do is be sweet and unthreatening in your approach- let them chase you not the other way round.

Some good matches for this Venus (of course the whole chart should be looked at) are for man: women with Venus in Aries, Libra and Taurus and for women man with Venus in Aquarius, Sagittarius and Scorpio.

Tips for lovers : speak up, be your crazy self, be your own person.

They can benifit from a more sobre and stable partner as long as they ahve somthing starnge or intresting to offer.

 

 

 

 

 

Saturn: The Dark Superhero

Up to this point, I avoided writing about Saturn. It wasn’t a thought out decision perhaps- but if was something I felt more comfortable with. Saturn is a very tricky planet to write about- not so much because it deals with the most difficult lessons in our life, but because it isn’t easy to pin down.  The reason for this is that fear in general, is not something we understand until we overcome it.  It is a basic accepted “fact” (starting with Freud) that until we know the reason for our fear we won’t be able to get rid of it. Saturn is also the grown up in out chart- it is the responsible adult that tells us we must work hard, play less and maybe then we might turn out good people.

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A strong Saturn is one that can indeed teach as much about life  even if he is not the one that makes things easy for us.  it usually isn’t  a pleasant experience,  when someone shows me their chart I make sure to study their Saturn first so I can understand where their pain and difficulty arises from. Saturn is ruled by both Aquarius and Capricorn- two signs that work hard to build institutions on this earth, erect governments and punish the criminals.

Saturn is a bit of a superhero really! A dark hero though he may be. He saves us from making the same mistakes again and again – like a wise elder that reminds us that fire is hot and we shouldn’t stick our little hands where they don’t belong.

Saturn isn’t mean- He is just knows so much he has not time for small talk and smiles. We usually feel our Saturn in our childhood- all the things we never chose, like our parents and teachers.  We may also feel Saturn in our relationship with society- when we feel alone in a room full of people- this is our hero in black, teaching us to be our own person. When we feel we don’t deserve love and that things are too hard to deal with- it’s him again.

Think about it: every person on this earth is born with some inner and outer restrictions that serve a purpose. It isn’t always obvious- for example a child born to a very rich family may face his restrictions as a result of that privilege. A small girl born with Saturn in the 6th house- will have to work like a grown up- becoming a child star.

Saturn also rules “time”- how so? As it rules things that last: long-term relationships as well as actual social constructs. It is very traditional at heart- not a liberal hero. It wants to use the past so it can build on top of it. This includes your past memories and things which serve as a base for who you are.  Things that last require work and commitment, like a marriage for example- if both parties are not ready to commit and are able to do things which they find hard- the marriage isn’t going to work.  Any long-term commitment requires sacrifice of the ego- making place for another person in your life. Isn’t that a good thing? Of course it is- if you understand that the commitment will lead to a real strong relationship. If you don’t understand that, then indeed Saturn may seem like an evil doer. The trick is to always see the goal ahead- not the path. Saturn wants you to know that you are going somewhere, building, creating and growing. Marriage is a great example for how Saturn works:

Marriage is a great example for how Saturn works: Two people meet and are attracted to each other. They have fun going on dates and having romantic moments and adventures together.  That time in the relationship is almost perfect- both think that the other person is perfect and more than that- perfect for them. They say they are in love and they feel it too. Then one day something happens- maybe one of them does something that hurts or bothers the other person and maybe they even fight, or maybe one of them loses their jobs or becomes ill- the Saturn domain. In happens in any relationship but chances are they both think it means something about that one specific relationship- the one that stops being all fun and games. It can be a painful discovery- suddenly your love is not the perfect person you thought. Instead, they are weak, flawed- they are human!   Suddenly the relationship isn’t perfect- you have to find a job, deal with the illness. Saturn at this point is your best compass- it will show you how to deal best with all the hard times and how to build a new and stronger foundation. If you manage the good times will return- they will not be perfect but they will be real and meaningful- they will be real love. A commitment and understanding- a marriage of souls.  Saturn is a very unromantic planet- but a romantic at heart for he can lead you to actually realize your dreams in the real world.

If you manage do learn Saturn’s moves in battle then the good times will return, they will not be perfect, but they will be real and meaningful- they will be real love. Saturn is a very unromantic planet- but a romantic at heart for he can lead you to actually realize your dreams in the real world.

He does protect you more than you know- from becoming less than you should be.

So face your fears- knowing they are just the path not the goal and that the end of your journey is beautiful. You will stand taller and stronger having overcome Saturn and having built something lasting.

Sun in the 9th house :The Spiritual Tourist

Key words- self-growth  (Jupiter)

Tip: break free from your ideas- develop new ones

It is my opinion that planets in the 9th house are special planets, as the 9th house signifies a whole new level of mental and spiritual development. The 8th house if you remember is a very dark house- symbolized by a dark hole, cave or the unconscious mind. The 9

The 9th in contrast, is a very bright house- like an open plain where ideas can grow and develop without being hindered by Scorpio issues such as sexual desire or fear. The Sun is our ego and sense of self- therefore its placement is very important if we want to know who we are in this life.  If you have your Sun in the 9

If you have your Sun in the 9th house you are a tourist at heart. Your mission in life is to develop your identity through Philosophical means- seems a bit vague? Maybe because it is.  You probably started this life with very strong opinions about the world. Many 9th house sun people grow in religious families or to parents that had ideals and opinions which they made sure to pass on to their children. Maybe you grew up in an institution with a strong ideology or were strongly influenced by people with ideals and vision. Either way- you thought that good and evil are a well-defined concept. As you grew older you naturally very curious mind required you to learn more. The way you learn depends on many factors but generally, you do this with the sheer power of reason. You’re the type of person who may read study and travel as much as they can.  You have a strong inner need to develop a whole puzzle of ideas and opinions which you can call your own and which define who you are. In many ways – you don’t know who you are until you are older. As I said, your ideas are first influenced by grown-ups and most likely your father (Sun- ego) has made you. Therefore you must embark on a journey of learning that is very personal but also very fun- It is not a painful process.

The way you learn depends on many factors but generally you do this with the sheer power of reason. You’re the type of person who may read study and travel as much as they can.  You have a strong inner need to develop a whole puzzle of ideas and opinions which you can call your own and which define who you are. In many ways – you don’t know who you are until you are older. As I said, your ideas are first influenced by grown-ups and most likely your father (Sun- ego) has made you. Therefore you must embark on a journey of learning that is very personal but also very fun- It is not a painful process.

Sun in the 9th house people have a thing for cultures that is exciting to note. They adore traveling and talking to people from all over the world. Some even marry foreigners and speak a dozen languages. Anthropology, philosophy, law and religious studies are all fields of interests to them. Though some may choose a less conventional path of thinking and invent their own new ideas, but this is rare because Sagittarius rules the 9th house- and he at heart is more traditional.Anyway, the highest self of this people needs to be in touch with the world at large or it will sink into self-loathing. Getting out into the world to study and meet the full force of history is necessary.

You are probably a very open minded person and are not afraid of anything different. In fact- you love anything different! You love people, the world and have a whole pool f optimism to share. But its not the foolish kind of joy, Rather you know so much of everything that you can see the joke.

Isn’t life funny and strange?  

You know the past and you look into the future into a better world- but never throwing away tradition and the mistakes of history. Your true self is connected to the ones of all of humanity and is able to share your knowledge with the world. As long as you develop you individual self and don’t become too rigid in traditional ways of thinking.

 

Pluto in the First House: Dangerous Beauty

Best quality: The ability to transform

Worst: The ability to destroy

Appearance: ever changing but the eyes.

Astro-Tip: Stop fearing yourself. Let your feral animal out of the cage and you will find out they are not so dangerous.

What happens when a planet is on your ascendant? It dramatically affects how people perceive you. In the case of Pluto the results are fascinating and sometimes surprising.

Pluto in the first house people are the kind of people who walk into a room- and the air changes. They have a strong presence- both for positive and negative.  It is not about how they look but more to do with the way they hold themselves.  Pluto is seductive- but also dominating. Pluto holds all the secrets of life and death- it is the key. So imagine a person that represents all these dark secrets in their very being. Pluto rising people are usually not aware they have this type of presence or strong effect on people. They may feel hurt and surprised by the way people sometimes fear them- or worse try and dominate and control them!

Why? It is as if other people feel the power and try to protect against it by being controlling or aggressive towards the Pluto rising person.

When they grow up they learn to either repress or mask their presence or they use it to reach their goals. In my experience, the second option is much healthier. Many amazing artists and performers have this placement- they radiate it and use is as a creative vehicle.

How? Pluto is about transformation, the deep and hidden kind, like  that of Scorpio and the 8th house. So they change their look and style every few years- they literally become someone else.  If they are more spiritually evolved they would change and shed their personality and not only their look and style. Some Pluto rising people fall into the trap of plastic surgery and obsession with how they look. A happy Pluto rising person is capable of transforming themselves for the better instead- they work on their character and spiritual growth. They can then influence in their environment- changing it for the better.

My tip for them is to stop trying to control and hide who they are- instead use it for the better. Be creative, live dangerously and change society. For example they can live dangerously only to help others- many medical professionals have this placement. They can use their ability to change to be great actors- turning into their very character with ease. A great example is  Meryl Streep who is known for transforming herself deeply before each role. Or Charlize Theron who changed her appearance  dramatically for “Monster” (2003). The roles both actresses choose reflect Pluto perfectly- dealing with death, sexual trauma, pain and the past.

Some male examples  known to do the same that have Pluto rising are Joaquin  Pheonix who plays characters in conflict or dealing with mental and emotional issues.  In the movie “The master” ( 2012) he plays a troubled boozy  drifter who joins a cult. And who can forget Stephen King? the author known for his horror and supernatural stories who is also mysterious in real life. He also transformed himself greatly from a heavy drug use to a completely sober and successful author.

To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.- Winston Churchill

 

The Complex art of Compatibility Charts

Today I am going to walk you through the first steps in reading a compatibility chart. Probably one of the most sought after readings in Astrology, because at the end of the day we all want the same thing- love, intimacy, friendship.

What they don’t tell you is how complicated such a reading can be. The amount of information and possibilities seen is no joke. The same aspects and sign placements can mean many different things. Nevertheless, some rules do apply and you can find out a great deal from such a chart about your relationship with the other person. Personally, I know more about Birth charts and Solar returns then this type of practice. Yet even I am not immune to its charms and practical use. Here too the Birth Chart is central if you want to figure things out, there are two main methods you can try:

 A. Look at the chart as if it’s the Birth chart of your relationship to each other. Just reading it according to the usual method.

B. Say you  are dating someone new and you want to know if this is a good relationship or not. What you need to do is study your chart and then his/her chart separately and then combine what you learn and compare it to the Compatibility Chart.

As you can guess I prefer the second method, it’s just more correct in my opinion. You don’t need to be a pro to do this- all you need is basic natal knowledge and the tools to apply it.

To help you here are some questions that can guide the process. First, find out what the relationship is like in style. For some background let’s say we have Jake and Mary and they are dating for a short period of time. They don’t know much about each other, but they both really want this to work.  Jake is an Aries with a Virgo Moon and Mary is a Capricorn with a Pisces Moon.  You look at the Chart and you see the Sun falls into Leo in 10th house and the Moon is in Virgo in the 6th. Though the rest of the chart should be considered in terms of style you already know that it’s more of a “work” relationship than a “romantic” one. This doesn’t mean they can’t fall in love and marry – not at all! It just means that the relationship is going to be more about working together and making goals and a daily routine then about fun adventures.

It is also very important to compare the signs to the Birth charts of the couple.  We know that Aries and Capricorn are worlds apart, but here we have opposite Moon’s In Virgo and Pisces. So Jake and Mary may feel that the other one has qualities that they wish they had. Jake may wish he could let go of analyzing his emotions and just feel and Mary may wish she could be less sensitive to criticism. The combined chart (as I call it) has a Moon in Virgo in the 6th house. Because Jake is a Virgo moon then a power struggle to have the relationship as he wants it to be may become a problem. You see- he may fall in love with Mary and feel amazing with her, but she may find it a bit harder to feel good. Unless they “work” on their emotions and home together or build a project that would enhance their careers. Emotionally this is not an easy partnership.

But let’s not give up and keep looking some more. Sun in Leo is somewhat fun and gives both of them time to breath- as long as they take pride in who they are by doing work. Next Venus and Mars are very important. Jake has his Venus in Taurus making him sensual and giving in love, but most importantly it makes him want women that are stable, practical, and classy- Just like Mary! Who is such a Capricorn that she does have some of these qualities: she is classy and practical, and Jake would like that about her. Jakes Mars is in Cancer which gets along amazingly with the opposite Capricorn in a sexual relationship.  So things are not as bad as a first glance would make you think. They might date and not get along at first but eventually over time they will enjoy each other.  What about Mary?  She had her Mars in Leo; she likes a partner who is confident, creative, energetic and maybe a little bossy. But most importantly she likes him to be open and have a big heart. Jake is an Aries and he is very much that- open, honest and proud. His very analytical nature would be forgiven as it helps Mary overcome her fears and deal with her dreams, turning them into reality. As a Capricorn she would like that very much. They both can have a nice business together maybe at home (Moon in the 10th house) and if they work as a team then this can be a very loving partnership.

This is just a very little example- but as you can see so many things need to be taken into account when trying to understand a relationship.

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Here is a check list that would help you:

Is the chart more about feelings? Planets in the 4th, 8th and 12th house. or Is it more about ideals? the 9th house or perhaps all about fun? look for planets In the 5th house.

Is it a harmonious relationship? Lots of Trines and sextiles, or a challenging one? Many squares and opposing planets.

Is Saturn well aspected? If yes it will be a long lasting relationship.  

Uranus may show you if a breaking up is a danger.  

Is it a soul-mate relationship- planets in the 7th house,8th and sometimes 12th. 

Does any of the partners have anger issues (Mars) or substance abuse (Neptune)?

I hope this helps, please remember that even a difficult chart can with some extra work signify a great relationship. It’s all about learning the weak and strong points for a better version of the chart.

Wish you love.

Lee