Venus in Gemini- Friendship never ends

And I’m only here
To bring you free love
Let’s make it clear
That this is free love
No hidden catch
No strings attached
Written by Venus in n Gemini Dave Gahan (Depeche Mode)

Venus in Gemini is one of the most romantic and exciting placements for the planet of love and beauty.  I would like to dispute many of the common views of this placement.

For example, you may have heard that Venus in Gemini people get bored easily and  don’t like emotionally heavy relationships- which for some reason leads to the paranoid conclusion that they are likely to cheat.  I don’t agree with any of this nonsense, in fact Gemini is one truly romantic sign for Venus to be.  Venus at the end of the day rules not only love but also our values- what we hold dear in our hearts.

A Gemini Venus is looking for a very specific kind of relationship and won’t settle for anything less than a true soulmate match.  Yes, they will not stay in a relationship that doesn’t hold on to this ideal- and they may even exit without a second glance at their broken hearted partner. But it isn’t out of some malice- they just believe in that one true partnership and they have no doubt you should do so too!

The kind of love they look for is a partnership of two equals that can keep each other interested- leading to growth, a partnership of two that are made stronger and better by being together.

They have a deeply hidden fantasy of this person and relationship. It usually evolves a lot of play, adventure, excitement and sweet moments where they get to exchange kind words with their loved one.  There is something almost childlike about how they view romantic love- they want to it to be cute and fun and full of “togetherness”. As long as their lover is by their side they are happy- no need for money or crazy nights of passion. They just want someone who is sweet, kind and fits their secret ideal of a perfect friend.

Many of them had a friend like that when they were little- and they tend to look for a similar person when they grow up. They tend to express love and care in an inconsistent manner – some day they are all sunny and bring you flowers for breakfast and the next they might disappear on you completely to become engaged in some strange activity. In that sense they are indeed slightly hard to rely on- but once you get used to their comings and goings you will notice a repeating pattern.  They usually engage with you for a while and then become entranced by something else- but if they love you they always come back.

If you try and scold them for their behavior you will only get sad puppy eyes or some long funny story. It’s best to accept them as they are and enjoy your moments of freedom.

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A jealous partner would make Gemini Venus people sad and lost. They become confused when their “best friend” doesn’t allow them the same thing which the give with ease:  freedom to discover and change. If you want to keep them happy it is best to use sweet talk or simply hold their hand.  In some ways this Venus is truly poetic and appreciates the world of theater, poetry, literature or even cheap romance novels. They like to be swift in their actions and don’t like to linger too long on one thing. They probably would solve most arguments with ease with the use of a sharp tongue and a touch of humor. They are very charming in their ability to shift and change and they are never at a loss for words of love.

The Venus in Gemini is the kind of prince   who would exaggerate his heroism for the sake of the story, he the kind of guy who will kiss your eyelids every morning but forget your birthday. She is  the princess who asks you to slay the dragon for some action – but as long as you’re cute she doesn’t care if you actually do. This is the girl who looks innocent but is a dare devil at heart- and she wants you to respect that. They both may sound untruthful at times- but this is because they are inventing the truth as they go along- it is true for them! They can create the perfect love story and tell all their friends about how you met. In fact they love to create a fantasy around your relationship: how you met and how it was love at first sight.  They need you to like and enjoy them more then they need you to love them. Love is friendship that never ends.  

In some ways they cannot accept the truly painful emotions that a lover may hold within them. To them if a relationship is good- their partner should feel good and that’s the end of it. It a lover feels pain, hurt, confusion- they feel something must be wrong with the relationship.  To make them understand it is best to try and be rational about your emotions and talk and talk some more.

They are deeply caring and loyal to you (once they are) and would probably figure an unorthodox way to make you happy. Women with Venus in Gemini are very easygoing in love. They will charm you with their ability to just be with you in the moment- having fun. They would also be amazing in communicating their appreciation of you.  If you are a good listener, have a sense of humor and don’t accept any promises from them- it should go wonderfully. It is important for them that you don’t fill their lives with negative energy and situations.

They might stay at first out of curiosity (curiosity killed the cat was about them) but soon enough they will see you are no friend to them.  Men with Venus in Gemini tend to be able to charm the opposite sex with ease, as they are very good with words and presenting an image of playfulness.  At heart they are yearning for that soulmate- they know who the perfect girl is. She will be that person who would always be by their side- there to see them make amazing discoveries but also stupid jokes. They want a girl who embodies a spirit of cleverness but who is also “the girl next door” in many ways.  They like girls who are both ordinary but at the same time slightly quirky and strange.

Both want a friendship that will last a lifetime- they may believe in that. Until they find it- they would be big flirts that are still searching for the one. If you have a crush on either all you have to do is be sweet and unthreatening in your approach- let them chase you not the other way round.

Some good matches for this Venus (of course the whole chart should be looked at) are for man: women with Venus in Aries, Libra and Taurus and for women man with Venus in Aquarius, Sagittarius and Scorpio.

Tips for lovers : speak up, be your crazy self, be your own person.

They can benifit from a more sobre and stable partner as long as they ahve somthing starnge or intresting to offer.

 

 

 

 

 

Saturn: The Dark Superhero

Up to this point, I avoided writing about Saturn. It wasn’t a thought out decision perhaps- but if was something I felt more comfortable with. Saturn is a very tricky planet to write about- not so much because it deals with the most difficult lessons in our life, but because it isn’t easy to pin down.  The reason for this is that fear in general, is not something we understand until we overcome it.  It is a basic accepted “fact” (starting with Freud) that until we know the reason for our fear we won’t be able to get rid of it. Saturn is also the grown up in out chart- it is the responsible adult that tells us we must work hard, play less and maybe then we might turn out good people.

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A strong Saturn is one that can indeed teach as much about life  even if he is not the one that makes things easy for us.  it usually isn’t  a pleasant experience,  when someone shows me their chart I make sure to study their Saturn first so I can understand where their pain and difficulty arises from. Saturn is ruled by both Aquarius and Capricorn- two signs that work hard to build institutions on this earth, erect governments and punish the criminals.

Saturn is a bit of a superhero really! A dark hero though he may be. He saves us from making the same mistakes again and again – like a wise elder that reminds us that fire is hot and we shouldn’t stick our little hands where they don’t belong.

Saturn isn’t mean- He is just knows so much he has not time for small talk and smiles. We usually feel our Saturn in our childhood- all the things we never chose, like our parents and teachers.  We may also feel Saturn in our relationship with society- when we feel alone in a room full of people- this is our hero in black, teaching us to be our own person. When we feel we don’t deserve love and that things are too hard to deal with- it’s him again.

Think about it: every person on this earth is born with some inner and outer restrictions that serve a purpose. It isn’t always obvious- for example a child born to a very rich family may face his restrictions as a result of that privilege. A small girl born with Saturn in the 6th house- will have to work like a grown up- becoming a child star.

Saturn also rules “time”- how so? As it rules things that last: long-term relationships as well as actual social constructs. It is very traditional at heart- not a liberal hero. It wants to use the past so it can build on top of it. This includes your past memories and things which serve as a base for who you are.  Things that last require work and commitment, like a marriage for example- if both parties are not ready to commit and are able to do things which they find hard- the marriage isn’t going to work.  Any long-term commitment requires sacrifice of the ego- making place for another person in your life. Isn’t that a good thing? Of course it is- if you understand that the commitment will lead to a real strong relationship. If you don’t understand that, then indeed Saturn may seem like an evil doer. The trick is to always see the goal ahead- not the path. Saturn wants you to know that you are going somewhere, building, creating and growing. Marriage is a great example for how Saturn works:

Marriage is a great example for how Saturn works: Two people meet and are attracted to each other. They have fun going on dates and having romantic moments and adventures together.  That time in the relationship is almost perfect- both think that the other person is perfect and more than that- perfect for them. They say they are in love and they feel it too. Then one day something happens- maybe one of them does something that hurts or bothers the other person and maybe they even fight, or maybe one of them loses their jobs or becomes ill- the Saturn domain. In happens in any relationship but chances are they both think it means something about that one specific relationship- the one that stops being all fun and games. It can be a painful discovery- suddenly your love is not the perfect person you thought. Instead, they are weak, flawed- they are human!   Suddenly the relationship isn’t perfect- you have to find a job, deal with the illness. Saturn at this point is your best compass- it will show you how to deal best with all the hard times and how to build a new and stronger foundation. If you manage the good times will return- they will not be perfect but they will be real and meaningful- they will be real love. A commitment and understanding- a marriage of souls.  Saturn is a very unromantic planet- but a romantic at heart for he can lead you to actually realize your dreams in the real world.

If you manage do learn Saturn’s moves in battle then the good times will return, they will not be perfect, but they will be real and meaningful- they will be real love. Saturn is a very unromantic planet- but a romantic at heart for he can lead you to actually realize your dreams in the real world.

He does protect you more than you know- from becoming less than you should be.

So face your fears- knowing they are just the path not the goal and that the end of your journey is beautiful. You will stand taller and stronger having overcome Saturn and having built something lasting.

Sun in the 9th house :The Spiritual Tourist

Key words- self-growth  (Jupiter)

Tip: break free from your ideas- develop new ones

It is my opinion that planets in the 9th house are special planets, as the 9th house signifies a whole new level of mental and spiritual development. The 8th house if you remember is a very dark house- symbolized by a dark hole, cave or the unconscious mind. The 9

The 9th in contrast, is a very bright house- like an open plain where ideas can grow and develop without being hindered by Scorpio issues such as sexual desire or fear. The Sun is our ego and sense of self- therefore its placement is very important if we want to know who we are in this life.  If you have your Sun in the 9

If you have your Sun in the 9th house you are a tourist at heart. Your mission in life is to develop your identity through Philosophical means- seems a bit vague? Maybe because it is.  You probably started this life with very strong opinions about the world. Many 9th house sun people grow in religious families or to parents that had ideals and opinions which they made sure to pass on to their children. Maybe you grew up in an institution with a strong ideology or were strongly influenced by people with ideals and vision. Either way- you thought that good and evil are a well-defined concept. As you grew older you naturally very curious mind required you to learn more. The way you learn depends on many factors but generally, you do this with the sheer power of reason. You’re the type of person who may read study and travel as much as they can.  You have a strong inner need to develop a whole puzzle of ideas and opinions which you can call your own and which define who you are. In many ways – you don’t know who you are until you are older. As I said, your ideas are first influenced by grown-ups and most likely your father (Sun- ego) has made you. Therefore you must embark on a journey of learning that is very personal but also very fun- It is not a painful process.

The way you learn depends on many factors but generally you do this with the sheer power of reason. You’re the type of person who may read study and travel as much as they can.  You have a strong inner need to develop a whole puzzle of ideas and opinions which you can call your own and which define who you are. In many ways – you don’t know who you are until you are older. As I said, your ideas are first influenced by grown-ups and most likely your father (Sun- ego) has made you. Therefore you must embark on a journey of learning that is very personal but also very fun- It is not a painful process.

Sun in the 9th house people have a thing for cultures that is exciting to note. They adore traveling and talking to people from all over the world. Some even marry foreigners and speak a dozen languages. Anthropology, philosophy, law and religious studies are all fields of interests to them. Though some may choose a less conventional path of thinking and invent their own new ideas, but this is rare because Sagittarius rules the 9th house- and he at heart is more traditional.Anyway, the highest self of this people needs to be in touch with the world at large or it will sink into self-loathing. Getting out into the world to study and meet the full force of history is necessary.

You are probably a very open minded person and are not afraid of anything different. In fact- you love anything different! You love people, the world and have a whole pool f optimism to share. But its not the foolish kind of joy, Rather you know so much of everything that you can see the joke.

Isn’t life funny and strange?  

You know the past and you look into the future into a better world- but never throwing away tradition and the mistakes of history. Your true self is connected to the ones of all of humanity and is able to share your knowledge with the world. As long as you develop you individual self and don’t become too rigid in traditional ways of thinking.